A visit to my BF's mother after a typhoon

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Dodger wrote: Sat Dec 07, 2024 7:46 am ...best to stay clear of this mess and let the Thais sort it out. Sounds like that's what you're doing.
Shortly after I first heard about the proposal to sell the land I received a Friend Request on Facebook from my boyfriend’s cousin who I’d never met. She then began to Message me with the suggestion that I might buy the land. She never said why I might want to do such a thing. When I told my boyfriend he was instantly suspicious why I was Messaging his cousin who he said was “No good”.

After that I’ve had to be very careful about how I mention the sale to my boyfriend as he becomes suspicious again that I’m colluding with his cousin. It was quite enough to demonstrate that getting involved in any way was not a good idea.

I’m hoping that a proposed visit to his mother next week will enable me to see what things look like now. However, such visits are always subject to last minute changes of plan by my boyfriend but we will be so close as we travel to Hua Hin that a visit just seems the natural thing to do.

His house and land and his mother's home are only a few miles apart.
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Montree wrote: Sat Dec 07, 2024 6:05 pm She then began to Message me with the suggestion that I might buy the land.
You can't buy the land. Foreigners are not allowed to own land or houses in Thailand, so you're off the hook for that. The only way you can buy the land is to pay the price for a Thai citizen in whose name the land will be owned. In other words, your money, but a Thai owner.

The only kind of property a foreigner can actually own is condo property, and that is restricted to 49% of the condo units foreign owned. The other 51% must be Thai owned.

Thailand is currently considering allowing up to 75% ownership by foreigners, but for the time being it is still 49%
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Gaybutton wrote: Sat Dec 07, 2024 8:31 pm The only way you can buy the land is to pay the price for a Thai citizen in whose name the land will be owned. In other words, your money, but a Thai owner.
My boyfriend's cousin was only ever after money and I had to block her on Facebook as she became a nuisance.
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This thread is quite an education. Thank you. I hope to never get close to involvement in such matters.
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Montree wrote: Sat Dec 07, 2024 11:29 pm My boyfriend's cousin was only ever after money and I had to block her on Facebook as she became a nuisance.
That happens often. The only interest she has in you is trying to con you out of money. I'm glad you saw right through that.

Undaunted wrote: Sat Dec 07, 2024 12:27 am Do yourself a favor stay out of it let him deal with it as nothing is likely to come from it.
Absolutely agree. I've seen very many times when a farang gets involved with a Thai and now he thinks the Thai needs to have his life micro-managed by the farang. It is best to keep well away from their family matters and financial problems - and most of the time it works best if you don't even give advice on these matters unless you are asked.

You don't need to be a miser, but if I've learned nothing else over the years, I've learned that no matter how much money you give to a Thai boy, it is never enough. Sooner or later they'll be back for more - and it is much more often sooner than later.

When I first moved to Thailand I hired a tutor to help me learn the language and some of the nuances of Thai culture and mindset. One of the questions I had was how to handle it if there is something you don't want to be involved with, but you're feeling more and more backed into a corner and don't know how to get out of it. She said "Tell him he will have to deal with it however he would if he had never met you."
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A few more photos in the area of my boyfriend’s house”

The Haunted House

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Sorting Fresh Water Mussels for sale at the local market.

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The last photo I have when there were Bananas on the trees on the plot of land.

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Not sure about this one. According to Google it’s called Nipple Fruit and is poisonous. I don’t know what they do with it.

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