What Makes Him Tick..."Greng Jai"

[Daleinpattaya]

Could someone please post the words ‘greng jai’ in Thai letters. Thanks.

[Jun]

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[Dodger]

The farang who write or talk about CURRENT butterfly activities usually do ask what a boy likes doing. They're the ones who I find relevant to the multi national bar scene of 2024.

It didn't take you long to jump on that one...

Correction: Yes, asking boys what they like is a good thing (see my comments to GB above).

As you well know, what I don't like is when some farang (as few as there are) try to pigeon-hole the boys into agreeing to their sexual expectations by asking them a lot of mundane and sometimes offensive questions - and then hold the tip over their heads as hostage. I understand that this is how you choose to treat the boys as you've told us repeatedly. And that's your prerogative.

As far as your repeated attempts to discredit (or marginalize) my opinions on topics like this - that's your prerogative as well. Believe me, I fully understand the REAL REASON why you do this.

But, then again, if you don't find my comments relevant, then why do you keep reading them?

[Jun]

What I find disturbing is when a farang tells a boy WHAT HIS SEXUAL EXPECTATIONS are - and then tries to get the boy too commit to this...followed by the boys performance being judged before the farang decides what how much to tip him. This is what I believe the boys dislike, and frankly, this is what I find appalling.

For a start, most boys ask how much they're going to get tipped these days. Which is fair enough. It also makes your scenario very infrequent in 2024.

The farang will ask what the boy likes to do. Which is also fair enough. If the farang has any sense, he moves on when there's a mismatch or any lack of clarity.

But, then again, if you don't find my comments relevant, then why do you keep reading them?

Your "advice" often follows my posts or quotes me. Typically with implied criticisms of the worst type of customer. That customer writes on another forum, not here. So, by all means go and stalk him.

Also, if you don't participate in the butterfly trade, why keep commenting on it ?

[Dodger]

....... if you don't participate in the butterfly trade, why keep commenting on it ?

I think I have a solution to keep calm on the waters:

Anytime there's a topic that involves "Boys" and/or the "Gay Scene" that I participate in just ignore my comments entirely. This way you can avoid reading things that you don't find relevant.

Sound good?

[Jun]

Anytime there's a topic that involves "Boys" and/or the "Gay Scene" that I participate in just ignore my comments entirely. This way you can avoid reading things that you don't find relevant.

Sound good?

I'll read and write whatever I like, within board rules.

If you choose to repeatedly follow my posts with some heavily embellished criticism of a hypothetical bad farang, or such nonsense, I'll respond if I want to.
Likewise with various other recurring themes.

Anyone who hasn't been a regular butterfly for a few years ought to try it before being too certain of their position.
They might just be surprised to see how well boys can look after themselves these days.

[Gaybutton]

I doubt anyone reading this is unaware of how I run this board and that I don't hesitate to step in when I decide it has become necessary. From where I sit, now it has become necessary. A little Greng Jai, along with a little Jai Yen wouldn't hurt a thing at the moment.

I have some prerogatives too:

1. Enough!

2. This stops right now or I lock the topic.

Those who wish to engage in personal disputes, the board provides the means to do so - PMs.

Those who wish to post about Greng Jai, what it is, what it means, and how it applies to the boys and our mutual encounters, that's what this topic is for. Let's keep it at that.