Gift idea for the boys

[Gaybutton]

On the Gay Thailand board, in the topic "Off-fee structure at BBB in Pattaya" (see: http://www.gaythailand.com/forums/topic ... n-pattaya/ ) the topic morphed a little bit into gifts for Thai boys. I posted my idea on two of the topic's threads. It got a positive response. I've combined the two posts and I might as well post it here too. Maybe some of you will also like the idea.
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Some farang buy their guys iPhones, gold chains, motorbikes, etc. I don't.

Sometimes, if it's a boy I like enough to want to give something substantial to beyond a tip, I don't buy him gold, telephones, motorbikes, or anything of the kind. You know what I do? I ask him when was the last time he had money enough to go home and visit his family. Most of the time it's been many months, sometimes years. If that's the case, I buy him a round-trip home so he can be with his family for a few weeks and I give him money enough so he can have a good time while he's there.

I've done that several times over the years. Based on the response I invariably get, they appreciate that far more than anything else I could have bought. I still get "Thank you so much" notes from boys who received that gift years ago.

Consider doing that, gents.

I hope it's an idea that catches on. The boys will love you for it and it means a hell of a lot more to them than an expensive telephone - which they're likely to end up losing, breaking, selling, or somebody steals it. Or gold - which they're likely to end up selling or somebody steals it.

I used to give things like that to boys once in awhile. And I always ended up regretting it.

Probably, no matter what happens to those things, sooner or later they'll forget who even gave it to them. But a chance to go home and be with the family, along with having a good amount of spending money too - they're not going to forget that - not ever. And that's something I've never regretted doing.

Another thought - if need be, it's also a good way to get rid of a boy for awhile . . .

[Alex]

Excellent idea, I think. I've done the same on a number of occasions, and sometimes I even came along.

[Trongpai]

A long time ago I met a boy in a bar in Pattaya who told me he did not like working in the bar, it was all a big mistake, he wanted to quit and all he wanted to do is to make enough money to go home to Udon Thani. I was going back to Bangkok and told him join me. Spend one night in Bangkok and I would send him back to Udon. The discount airlines were just starting up and I bought him a one-way ticket to Udon.

I became suspicious when he did not want me to go to the airport with him. Then at the airport I almost had to force him to check in and then go to the gate area. I waited outside the check point and watched him and he kept an eye on me. I left when his plane finished boarding.

Next day a farang friend in Pattaya told me he's back in the bar working. I wondered if Udon was even his home. He must have arrived by air and taken an overnight bus directly back to Pattaya. He probably never told a farang that story again. It was a valuable learning experience for both of us.

[Oliver]

I was astonished-and saddened- to discover when I first met my boyfriend twelve plus years ago that he hadn't seen his parents for eighteen months despite being devoted to them. I recall providing him with the money to visit at Songkran...and how much pleasure it gave me, as well as him of course.
He now lives next door to them and is still devoted to them.

[Gaybutton]

Next day a farang friend in Pattaya told me he's back in the bar working.

That is a good point and that thought had occurred to me. I'm sure some boys out there would try to cheat, but I think most boys would be honest about it. I only do this for boys I really like and have known long enough to be certain they really will use the money to go home.

[Moses]

What I did as a gifts for "my Asian friends" in Thailand and Cambodia:
- 3 hours of SPA-routine
- dentist: whitening procedure
- visit home village for 3 days and installation of new electricity network in his grandma's house by me and him
- new semi-commercial rice cooker for his big family
- new TV-satellite antenna for parents home in rural area + installation by him and me
- new water well at family farm

[loke]

I don't give gifts other than a meal out in a restaurant. I am not rich and can waste money as I like . My salary is quite low so there you go . If I pay someone for sex thats where my limit is . And a few free meals. Still have many Thai friends who do not expect such gifts . If you have to give expensive gifts to form a friendship it is not a real friendship in my opinion.