Older farangs and free sex

[firecat69]

I have seen 3 7/11 boys who I met on Gayromeo. They never mentioned money but I gave them same thing as I would any boy because I figure they need it. No idea if they would have asked afterwards if I did not volunteer.

On balance I find boys who have real jobs to be better then GoGo Boys but of course exceptions to every rule?

[christianpfc]

One thing is for sure - if someone is too shy to even try to strike up a conversation, that's someone who isn't going to get anywhere.

That might be one explanation for my lack of success. As far as I remember, there was only one case where a cute Thai boy approached me. All other cases, dozens, nay hundreds over the years, the Thais who approached me were either drunk or wanted to sell something or were in a group (and not my type in addition).

I prefer it if someone approaches me, but that's not common behavior in Thailand (to approach Farang, in addition they cannot know that I understand Thai). That alone (being able to speak Thai and thereby increasing my area of activity from 5% of the population (estimated those who speak English) to 100%) should be enough to make me approach more Thai boys.

[Gaybutton]

should be enough to make me approach more Thai boys.

Even if you can't speak Thai at all, if you see a boy you like there is no reason why you can't at least say hello. What's the worst that can happen? I wonder how many boys you could have met, but never did, because you let shyness stop you.

You need to force yourself to overcome that. If you wait around for boys to be the ones who do the approaching, you're going to have a very long wait.

[same same]

I've met a couple of guys from GR while in Pattaya and both said they were non money-boys.......we've met more than the one time too! Neither times have I been asked for BHT,...... They both have full time jobs, one in a bank, one at a restaurant- I did ask one of the guys what he wanted from me, he said nothing, I have money, I not money boy!

So, if you meet a guy let's say in a shop, how do you go about asking the question of are you after money? I wouldn't like to ask if they are a money-boy in case I offend

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[lvdkeyes]

A few years ago a friend of mine, who is 5 years older than I am, was here visiting from UK. He met a boy who worked at an Internet cafe. When they were going to the hotel, my friend asked me if he should give him money. I was fairly new to Thailand and I said he should. The next day he told me he tried to give the boy some money. The boy got upset with him and told him was not "a whore".

[Gaybutton]

So, if you meet a guy let's say in a shop, how do you go about asking the question of are you after money? I wouldn't like to ask if they are a money-boy in case I offend

Speaking only for myself, I would never ask. When you meet someone just by chance, that's the risk you take. If it turns out to be someone looking for money, believe me he'll find a way to let you know it.

Most of the time I think you can tell just from the 'vibes.' it's not that difficult. The younger they are, the more likely it is that they would appreciate money. If I'm not sure, I never directly ask, but I usually will offer money at the time we part company, not when we first meet. Sometimes they take it and sometimes they tell me it's not necessary, but I've never had one of them feel insulted or get angry. If that happens I would I would simply explain that I wasn't sure and since most boys I've met do want money, I thought it was best to just make the offer.

[thaiworthy]

Some of this astounds me. For example, I have never been in a 7-11 store that wasn't extremely busy. I could not even conceive of striking up a conversation with a clerk that is that busy. If you did see someone who was not busy, these boys usually have their nose glued to a cell phone and are playing a game or texting. I don't know what it would take to get their attention in those circumstances. I think flirting is great if you have the opportunity, interest and can speak fluent Thai, among other things.

The author of this thread, who has now passed, was actually the only one who I have ever met who possessed all these qualities and had a remarkable ability to meet and engage these young men so successfully. The boys were nice, and if he contributed to their financial welfare, he did so out of genuine compassion. You have to meet a lot of dogs to find a handsome prince, but in his case they all had personalities that made them keepers.

A lot of farang are tourists. I doubt many will be visiting 7-11 stores looking for free sex.

I don't know what it takes yet to realize the 7-11 scenario. I am just amazed. Personally, my heart just isn't in it. I have a long-term boyfriend I want to keep. I suppose if you are single, live in Thailand, can speak a little Thai, are not shy, have the opportunity and interest, then meeting people this way would be great. A lot of ifs, ands or buts. Yet I admire the ability of anyone resourceful enough to accomplish this.

[Gaybutton]

I think flirting is great if you have the opportunity, interest and can speak fluent Thai, among other things

I disagree with some of your post. What I'm seeing in your post is all kinds of reasons to not even try. I don't see that speaking fluent Thai or even being able to speak Thai at all is a prerequisite to flirting. I also wouldn't hesitate to approach a boy just because he's glued to his phone. I can't speak for others, but I certainly would not miss out on at least trying whether he's on the phone, others are around, he's in a group, or anything else. I'm not going to spend the rest of my life wondering what kind of response I might have gotten.

Some people say "I'm shy" as their reason to avoid trying. I don't think it's really shyness at all. I think it's fear of rejection. Some people have a real problem with the possibility of getting rejected. Suppose you do get rejected. So what? I'd rather try and get rejected than to not try at all and never know. Sure, sometimes you get rejected, but sometimes you'll succeed.

For me, the boy I mentioned above - the one who works at a 7-Eleven, is a perfect example. I had no idea what kind of response I would get when I approached him. I could have been shy or afraid of rejection and simply left the store. I'm sure glad I wasn't too shy to try. Last night he even called me again to ask if I'm really going to come to meet him today. He was afraid I wouldn't. Here he is, one of the cutest boys I've seen in a long time, and he's the one who is worried. Go figure.

The point is what I said already. If you permit yourself to be shy or afraid, you'll get nowhere. A simple smile and hello is all it takes.

[christianpfc]

Gaybutton, what is your success rate? And how many false alarms?

I handed out my phone number about 20 times in the last two years, some called, but not one in bed. That would be 0% success rate and estimated 20% false alarms and 80% no call.

[Gaybutton]

Gaybutton, what is your success rate? And how many false alarms?

I assume you mean when I'm the one who makes the approach, rather than the boy. I'm not certain what kind of answer you want. If you mean do they call me? Most, but not all the time. If you mean do they come with me immediately? I never do that. I don't want them coming with me immediately. I prefer to wait and see if they contact me. That way, I know he really is interested.

By false alarms, I assume you mean boys who I was sure would call, but didn't. That's never happened.

If you mean anything else, you need to ask specific questions and make clear what you want to know.