Boys Requesting Money

[Jun]

Still the requests for money to pay the rent keep coming. I'm just not responding to those, but the following thoughts some to mind:

1 The original request for the rent money was on 02 July. Well the rent is 1800 and his earnings in June were well into 5 figures from me alone. So there has been adequate opportunity to save for that.

2 I have been sent the handwritten bill as evidence. When I'm paying for rooms myself, normally they only hand the bill over when I have already paid. Is it ever any different ?

3 If I were dumb enough to pay this, I expect the next request for money would be in no more than 3~4 days.

[Gaybutton]

Still the requests for money to pay the rent keep coming. I'm just not responding to those

That's really the only way to handle it. Sooner or later the boy will give up.

I've posted about this before and unfortunately it is almost always true: If you help these boys with money once, the pleas for more money keep coming - and coming and coming. They always have another reason why they need your money. Once you give in to it, it is all too often terribly difficult to put an end to it.

So, Jun's method of not responding is the best thing to do. You could also block his Emails, LINE messages, or however he's contacting you.

I also agree with the rest of Jun's post. Jun has had more than enough experience in Thailand and dealing with the boys to know how things work and the most effective ways to deal with this kind of problem.

By the way, when a boy on the apps says he is not a money boy, that's how I know it's a boy I can't afford . . .

[Dodger]

By the way, when a boy on the apps says he is not a money boy, that's how I know it's a boy I can't afford . . .

I understand your point...agree with you in general...excellent advice...,but there are exceptions.

I met Jai on GayRomeo...we both had entered "looking for friends" in our profiles...and we chatted on-line for nearly 6 months before deciding to meet each other in-person.

During one of our chats I told him I wasn't looking at GayRomeo for a sex date because there were a thousand boys in Pattaya to have sex with if that was all I was interested in. And he in-turn mentioned to me that he wasn't looking at GayRomeo to hook up with customers who were looking for sex dates because he worked as a fashion designer...took pride in earning his own money...and was interested in meeting someone he could bond with as a partner - because he felt like he was living in a bubble and got lonely sometimes. Those were his exact words.

Here it is eleven years later and meeting Jai was the best thing that's ever happened in my life.

It all depends on what you're looking for.

[Jun]

By the way, when a boy on the apps says he is not a money boy, that's how I know it's a boy I can't afford . . .

Agreed & I never bother contacting those.
I don't want to even consider the idea of something longer term, particularly when only in Thailand on holiday.

[Gaybutton]

but there are exceptions.

Of course there are exceptions. Nothing is engraved in stone. But I think you are well aware you are one of the very few lucky exceptions. For most it rarely works out that way.

[Dodger]

Of course there are exceptions. Nothing is engraved in stone. But I think you are well aware you are one of the very few lucky exceptions. For most it rarely works out that way.

The vast majority of farang use the apps for sex dates which is perfectly understandable and they almost always get the results they're looking for. This is by far the wisest decision, especially for those who do not reside here fulltime.

If a farang ever reaches a point where he wants a LTR then the apps do in fact offer plenty of opportunities if they can just filter out the money boys. I know, easier said than done.

The point I'd like to make is that you may be surprised at just how many non-money boys there are who are genuinely interested in finding a compatible partner to enjoy life with. There are many farang (some being members here) who have been in successful LTR's a lot longer than me.

We are all the lucky exceptions as long as we're happy...

[Gaybutton]

We are all the lucky exceptions as long as we're happy...

Agreed.

[christianpfc]

For my monthly rental, I get the bill (rent, electricity, water) at the end of the month and go down to office to pay it. They stamp the bill with "paid" (in Thai).

I rarely get requests for money for rent or food.

There are a few who really are not looking for money in Pattaya. Every now and then, I have the luck to meet one who is my type and not looking for money.

[Gaybutton]

There are a few who really are not looking for money in Pattaya. Every now and then, I have the luck to meet one who is my type and not looking for money.

Many refuse to believe that, but it's true. Up until a few years ago it used to happen to me, and more often than I would imagine. I actually had non-money, non-bar boys pick me up. I even had farang witnesses, for which I was glad because I was sure no one would believe me.

But I guess now I'm getting old or otherwise lost my charm, whatever it was. It hasn't happened to me for a couple years now, although one or two times a month I still get those kinds of offers on the apps. So, enjoy it while it lasts.

[Jun]

I don't mind paying money boys for services provided. In most cases, that's well deserved.

Being regularly asked to send more money as a donation is more problematic.