Boys in the provinces, small towns, rice farms, and other boondocks

[Dodger]

Dodger observed cute lads walking around a shopping mall. As can be seen anywhere in east Asia.
I don't think he wrote anything that confirmed their availability?

All I can do is tell you how many cute boys there are along with my read of the situation.

Confirming their availability as you suggest would be futile, as just because a boy is available to one person doesn't necessarily mean he'd be available to someone else. That would rely solely on your own efforts and skills...not those of someone else. This is where boy-hunting on the apps has its greatest advantage.

Here's a hypothetical:

If I said I've been hit on by 3 cute gay boys during the past 5 days in Buriram - and then you come to Buriram and strike out, would that mean there's poor availability in Buriram, or good availability?

Do you get my drift?

[Gaybutton]

Do you get my drift?

I, for one, certainly do. I've had good luck out in the provinces. I'm sure others also have had good luck and others did not. I don't see a way to rationally apply any particular meaning to it.

"Be careful out there among the English"
- Jan Rubes (Eli Lapp), 'Witness'

[Jun]

The hypothetical three in five days would certainly be sufficient for a person of a certain age to get by!
On the other hand, for most of us, that would not be a reason to abandon Pattaya and rush up country.

Also, I guess there are all sorts of hypothetical reasons why different people get different hypothetical results.

e.g.
Different definitions of cute. For instance, I still haven't dated anyone with a moustache and probably over 50% of my incoming messages up country are from people with them.

Different approaches to boy hunting -you might just be better at hypothetically finding them in the provinces. Or you may be spending time different places.

Timing. I did do a quick Hornet search in Burriram. At least two of the cute profiles are for people who were recently in Pattaya. Perhaps they have gone home for New Year, along with a few other lads.

Objectives. If a lad tells me he's looking for a boyfriend, I'll make it clear I'm only in town for a couple of days, so there is no misunderstanding. I expect you would do the same with these hypothetical lads, but not all farang are so honest.

Who does what in bed. I tend to count how many hookups I actually had, so that's a metric after considering compatibility, etc.
Maybe we're comparing apples with apples, maybe not.

[Gaybutton]

I still haven't dated anyone with a moustache

I'm with you on that. I don't care how much else about a boy makes him a "my type", mustaches and beards are verboten. So far I have never found myself so desperate that I was ever willing to make an exception.

[Dodger]

Just to clarify:

I'm not suggesting in this post that anyone abandon Pattaya to rush to Isaan...understanding that trips like this require a certain surplus of energy which some farang have and some don't. Actually I think it's advisable for farang on holiday who rely mostly on using the apps to find boys, and who rarely off boys from a bar, to do exactly what they're doing now. This isn't a contest...it's all about each person doing whatever they feel they need to do to be happy.

Different strokes for different folks.

The farang I've crossed paths with who like to journey around the Kingdom all seem to possess a certain sense for adventure and lust for spontaneity. To me that's what makes life worth living - and regardless if you travel with a boy at your side (as I am now) or go solo, the experiences are irreplaceable.

Following a night of sanook with Jai's family members - I spent the first 4 hours this morning cutting bamboo in a forest behind Jai's families farm. My pickup truck is filled to the brim - and I now have the task of cutting them to size...hand-sanding...and treating them for insects with Borax (a 48 hour process). Making bamboo furniture has become my second favorite hobby.

Jai spent the morning helping his mother and a dozen other women he calls his aunts prepare the vegetables they plucked from the garden for yet another feast tonight. The food's great, but I could do with a little less BOOM-BOOM-BOOM from his uncles loud speakers till the wee hours of the morning. The BOOB-BOOM-BOOM I prefer is much quieter...555.

I'll try to upload a few pictures when I return to Bang Saray. I'm actually terrible at taking pictures but have a few of the whole family together partying with some cute boys in the mix as well.

We all know the saying: "If you want to see Thailand - you have to get out of Pattaya"...where the "Boys of Thailand" are plentiful and second-to-none".

What's not to love about Thailand.

[Jun]

This isn't a contest...it's all about each person doing whatever they feel they need to do to be happy.

I agree. Certainly no competition.

However, I wouldn't want anyone to have an unduly optimistic or pessimistic opinion of prospects in the provinces.
Pattaya's stuffed full of cute lads, most of whom are available.
I don't see the same level of availability in the provinces.

If anyone is travelling to northern Thailand in 2024 and meeting different lads for sex on a daily basis, as can be done in Pattaya, they're welcome to write about it. Particularly where they're finding them.

Although, If that involves going to some noisy late night karaoke joint to find them, I think I'd rather go and chop the bamboo.

[Gaybutton]

I don't see the same level of availability in the provinces.

I don't see it as a level of availability. I see it as a different kind of availability. In Pattaya many see it as mostly bars and money boys. At least for me, in the provinces it's neither.

In Pattaya there is no challenge to it. It's mostly simply deciding who and what you want, when you want it, and how much you're willing to pay for it.

In the provinces it's far different, involving opportunity, how you present yourself, making the right approaches, saying the right things, doing the right things, the right kind of body language, eye contact, judging how receptive the boy is, etc. The right start and taking it from there. Quite often it doesn't involve money at all other than picking up the tab for everything. That's the way it's always worked for me.

[Dodger]

In the provinces it's far different, involving opportunity, how you present yourself, making the right approaches, saying the right things, doing the right things, the right kind of body language, eye contact, judging how receptive the boy is, etc. The right start and taking it from there. Quite often it doesn't involve money at all other than picking up the tab for everything. That's the way it's always worked for me.

Well-stated, and that's exactly how it's always worked for me and many other farangs I know as well.

It would be nice if we had other members with similar experiences to share.

[Dodger]

.......Although, If that involves going to some noisy late night karaoke joint to find them, I think I'd rather go and chop the bamboo.

Regardless if you're visiting the bar scene in places like Pattaya - or rubbing elbows with the younger generation up-country there's usually music involved...and the older you are the louder it is.

The boys can change a lot of things to please us aliens - but they can't change who they are. If you want to interact with boys out at the bars - or hook up with boys when traveling to more remote provinces then you either have to learn to adapt - or stick to using the apps so its not too noisy and you can go to sleep early. Up2U.

btw...late-night karaoke's. especially the ones that are somewhat hidden in the small towns, are my favorite places to go without question. Not only for the "boys", but for the music, signing, dancing, and laughing in a joyous atmosphere that the Thais are so great at creating. I've been to a couple of real gloomy dives as well, but for the most part they are great fun. They usually get rolling around 10:00 PM and stay open until the roosters start crowing...same like the ones in-and-around Pattaya.

The important thing is to just enjoy life - regardless of your preferences, and appreciate those around you who to do the same.

[Jun]

It would be nice if we had other members with similar experiences to share.

It is what it is. I expect many of us could pick highlights from our trips.

On the other hand, if we have members travelling around smaller Thai cities in 2024, hooking up with boys on almost a daily basis and who are prepared to write about it in an unambiguous manner, in time we will hear from them.