Jun wrote: ↑Tue Oct 31, 2023 6:36 pm
do you just invite him around & see what happens ? How often do you do this and what is your success rate ?
That's pretty much just what I do. I don't bother asking things like where he comes from or his age because the app usually tells that. I suppose for me it mainly boils down to telling him what I like, asking if he likes the same things I like, and I let him know if all goes well and we like each other, then I might become a regular.
On the apps, quite often the first contact comes from the boy. Many times there is no photo, either that or an unacceptable photo. I will always send back a message: No picture = No chat. Most of the time shortly thereafter I'll get a photo. Sometimes I can see why they don't want to send a photo, but often enough I am very pleasantly surprised.
I can't speak to my success rate because to tell the truth, I can't remember the last time the boy was a dud. I suppose I've been lucky, but I've hardly ever had that happen.
What sometimes does happen to me is the boy becomes a dud at some point
after we've met a few times, even if all has been going well. If the pleas for money start coming, that's usually when I'll end it - permanently - and most of the time right then and there. I've had it happen a few times - fortunately not often, but that's how I handle it when the "I not have money for room", "I not have money for eat", "Grandmother sick", etc. start coming. I won't give in to any of that. With the money ploys, I know what they're going to try before
they know what they're going to try.
I have also learned if you "help" a boy with money, even if only once, now the pleas for money are never ending. Some may disagree with my stance, but I've learned the best way to deal with it is not to be giving him money at all, other then when I have him come over.
The most common one I get is the "I not have money for room" ploy. I've heard that one a few times over the years. And yet in all the years I've lived here, I have never seen even one boy trying that with me actually lose his room.
Yes, it has now been a very long time since I last went to the bars, but when I used to go regularly, I handled it as I posted.
Nuthin goes my way. A girl called me. "Come on over. There's nobody home." I went over. There was nobody home!
- Rodney Dangerfield