For Pete's sake, Christian, what do you want, lessons and a script?christianpfc wrote:What do you say in these cases? Do you approach them in English or Thai? Do you try to make eye contact first?
I don't know about others, but when I talk to somebody I actually make eye contact. Where else would I look?
English or Thai? What difference does it make? Say hi in Swahili if you want to. The point is it lets the boy know you're interested and you'd like to talk with him. What do you say to another farang when you first meet? What do you say to a bar boy when you first call him over to sit with you?
Ok, first you smile and say hi. Don't try to put on an act - have some confidence and just be yourself. Then you say whatever comes naturally or seems appropriate. If you're so frightened or so tongue-tied that you can't think of anything else to say, give him a compliment. Nobody is going to be upset by receiving a compliment. "You very handsome ( or "You very cute"). I like. What your name?" - and take it from there. That's "Thai-nglish." But you can speak Thai, so say it in Thai.
Now you've made your approach. Since your approach came unexpectedly he'll likely feel both surprised and flattered. You probably made his day. Wouldn't it make your day if someone you never met came over to you, complimented you, and made an effort to talk to you? How would you react? Would you be friendly or would you tell him to fuck off?
After that, I can't tell you what to say, but try to strike up a conversation about something - anything - and then either invite him for a drink or a cup of coffee or something right then, or give him your phone number and tell him you would really like him to call you. Maybe he'll give you his phone number too. Whether he gives you his phone number or not, if he's interested, believe me he'll call. Maybe you'll really hit the jackpot and he'll want to go with you immediately. You never know. And if you don't try, all that will ever happen is watching him disappear while you're standing there wishing you had the guts to at least make an approach.
You must get yourself over this shyness unless you want to spend your life hoping the boy of your dreams will come along and he's going to be the one who does the approaching. Do you really need me to tell you that's not going to happen and it doesn't work that way? This is life, not a movie.
Did you read naughty but nice's post on "The luck of 7/11" topic? He merely talked about the weather with a boy and bingo! Now he's going to end up with not one, but two boys out of it.
I asked you a question that you didn't respond to: What are you afraid of?
Whatever you're afraid of, you need to either force yourself to get over it and start trying or you're doomed to sticking with bar boys or Saranrom Park boys. And whatever you do, don't give up if you get rejected. Keep trying - every time you see a boy you're attracted to. It won't take long to learn how to approach and what to say. Just like going fishing, sooner or later you'll reel one in.
"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."
- President Franklin D. Roosevelt