Better in Bangkok,was it a secret?

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Re: Better in Bangkok,was it a secret?

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windwalker wrote:
Undaunted wrote:I am beginning to smell a rat :!:
I smelled a rat over two weeks ago and posted my comments, however subtly.
Trust me, I know exactly who that "rat" is and he probably thinks he has me fooled. He doesn't. He's on the board probationally. As long as he properly behaves himself in his posts I'm ok with it. However, one more wrong kind of post, "however subtly," and this board will immediately be minus one new member.
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I assume by Rat some members think the story is made up. Who knows maybe it is? Still an interesting discussion . And anyone who does not think most of those things in his initial post have happened to individuals , have just not been around the right people.

The problem is it just seemed to easy in a short visit that one person could be so lucky . Certainly this is predominately a Pattaya Board and the difference between BKK and Pattaya for money boys is Gigantic. Hornet etc vast majority of boys are in fact not money boys or at least open to the possibility. of meeting to improve their English or go out for a good meal and drinks.

The % of Pattaya Boys on Hornet etc are IMHO predominately Money Boys.
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Just seen this thread, and I have recent experience of meeting guys in BKK in particular online.
There is no doubt that there are a lot more available guys to meet who are not money boys in BKK than in Pattaya.
Have to remember that not all guys in Thailand are from poor Esan farms coming south to make some money.

Believe it or not there are a reasonable number of rich/well off Thais around either independently rich or in rich families. Often they reside in BKK. Statistically, a proportion of these rich guys will be gay, so......

On reading the OPs initial post it seems to me he is just trying to impart some useful information and no reason to disparage that.

Of course a lot to be said to make any dating a "transaction". Paying for it has a lot of benefits. The customer is the boss and need not spend endless hours getting into a relationship which ultimately will not work; or spending hours traipsing around with some cutie no matter how nice he is.

There is the story of the mature man in a gay pub approached by a good looking young man. After a while chatting the older guy says:

"well how much do you charge?"

young man: "oh i am free...."

older man: "no thanks....far too expensive for me!"
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Jogger wrote:Believe it or not there are a reasonable number of rich/well off Thais around either independently rich or in rich families. Often they reside in BKK. Statistically, a proportion of these rich guys will be gay, so......
I may have skewed the discussion somewhat by implying that it might only be younger Thais who are basically reasonably well off who seek older farang for a relationship. Certainly this is true, although most guys in that category - in my experience - prefer to meet and socialise with their fellow gay Thais.

But having lived for decades in and around the region, I can say in all honesty that in virtually every country in Asia there is a group of young guys who actually want to meet up with and develop relationships with foreigners who are often way over double their age. For this group, money is not a motivating factor. Of course the older man is likely to pay for more meals, perhaps even holidays. That is inevitable when there is a major disparity in income. No doubt as these couples age, the younger will often become more of the breadwinner. But the overriding factor in my view is an overwhelming desire for love.

I cannot tell you why. Some guys I know lost their fathers at a very early age. Perhaps they are looking for a lover who represents a sort of father figure in their lives. Others - and please do not laugh at this - have told me that older guys have more wisdom and can guide them through life much more than someone their own age. No doubt there is a myriad of reasons.

About a dozen years ago in a small Hong Kong sauna I met a very cute early 20s Chinese from Malaysia. When I said I came from Bangkok, he told me he visited for a long week-end every month. Hoping I might have the chance of meeting him more regularly, he quickly pointed out that he came to be with his British boyfriend who had just retired as a teacher. We still keep in touch in touch but never met again. A few years later he sent me photos of their wedding.
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Jogger wrote:Of course a lot to be said to make any dating a "transaction". Paying for it has a lot of benefits. The customer is the boss and need not spend endless hours getting into a relationship which ultimately will not work; or spending hours traipsing around with some cutie no matter how nice he is.
Unless there is a reasonable chance of the relationship going wherever you want it to go, I think you're damn right. Pay for it and you can expect what you want.

If you're not paying, then that's fine as long a you don't invest too much in a relationship where one party might want a simple friendship & the other might want something a lot more intimate.
Actually proper friendship is just fine, if the people are compatible & they want an equitable relationship.

Then I've been chatting with some people and eventually it turns out they want friendship, plus me to treat them with shopping trips and then not offering anything in return. That's a very inequitable arrangement. Friendship is fine, but if I have to throw in all the money, we're moving away from a true friendship to a transaction.

Also, reminds me of an advert I saw for an escort in the UK.
We got chatting & eventually, he asked how much would I pay him to take him out to dinner ?
My answer was along the lines of "Nothing. You only get paid for what happens in bed & I have plenty of friends who I can go out to dinner with for free. "
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Post by loke »

Why you smell a rat ?
I'ts plenty of guys available in BKK, but I am a bit picky , so the below average guys are free for sure , but the cutest ones are not . Just my experience .
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Re: Better in Bangkok,was it a secret?

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loke wrote:Why you smell a rat ?
I'ts plenty of guys available in BKK, but I am a bit picky , so the below average guys are free for sure , but the cutest ones are not . Just my experience .
I think it's more the collective threads rather than one post on this one which has noses twitching. BTW, I'm in my mid 50s and as far from an oil painting as it gets but even I got a couple of freebies from fit looking guys over there. It happens, no doubt about that.
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Yes , well I'm not a big fan of the apps when I'm in BKK. I want to go out and make eye contact. Blued , Grindr on my phone but prefer not to meet most of them.
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