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Undaunted wrote:Sex with a long term partner is about intimacy....stop sex lose a large part of intimacy
I never thought about it that way but imagine you may be right...but does intimacy have to stop if and when sex stops?
I know my mother and father remained extremely intimate with each other well after their 85th birthdays. Is this phenomenon reserved only for str8's?
I like what RichLB had to say about his monogamous relationship - reminding me of the old adage: "If a tree falls in the forest and there's no one there to hear it fall - did it make a sound? The art of thoughtful discretion.
Then there's always another twist: Knowing that people start to see there sexual drive diminish at different ages depending on many factors, i.e., genetics, physical condition, general health conditions, etc., so who's to say that the younger one in a relationship will necessarily enjoy more longevity when it comes to his sexual drive and/or potency. I know guys in there 80's who still have at least one sexual encounter every day - and conversely, guys in their 50's who have lost all interest.
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Since the subject of ageing is in play, this is fun. Skip the first 1'20" of the prayer and invocation from the Caregiver of the Year in the USA. The rest is an example to any professional comedienne.
On the subject of lonely I cannot offer an opinion because to date I have never suffered from being lonely. I guess I am happy with my own company & the company of friends & boring as this may sound watching "quality" tv. Of course here you can always have instant gratification & 90 minutes of bliss. However I do want to comment on farangs saying they have Thai boyfriends when in fact they have Thai escorts. After living here for 7 years I have not met one falang who is not paying for his boyfriend. The payment may be a daily salary, purchase of phones, reimbursement of real or imaginary expenses, braces for teeth,family expenses etc & the worst of all paying out gambling debts. As the T shirt sums it up when the money stops the honey stops. As for being sick of course you can pay someone to look after you, maybe even a Cambodian who would be delighted with a regular income. If you think you are having a loving relationship with somebody you have to pay, you are fooling yourself.You are only a customer. By all means use the word boyfriend as long as you understand that when the money stops so does the relationship.
Concerned wrote: If you think you are having a loving relationship with somebody you have to pay, you are fooling yourself.You are only a customer. By all means use the word boyfriend as long as you understand that when the money stops so does the relationship.
At last a realist!!!!
"In the land of the blind the one eyed man is king"
Undaunted wrote:At last a realist!!!!
The attitude of the last couple posters confuses me. Isn't "love" defined by the emotions one experiences? If one loves someone, isn't that the reward you seek? I suspect that imposing an economic transactional model on the relationship automatically negates the experience of "love".
Let me give a couple illustrations. If you engage in a long term relationship with a younger person, I argue that the younger guy is making the bigger risk. You may give money, but that is replenishable. The Thai guy is contributing his youth, and that is not replenishable.
Not meaning to be demeaning, but one can think of pet ownership (NOT equating a boyfriend with a per!!!) If you've owned a dog in the past, I bet you loved it. I doubt if you ran a balance sheet to measure the puppy's worth. Loving it was the reward itself regardless of how much you paid for its welfare.
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Concerned wrote:After living here for 7 years I have not met one falang who is not paying for his boyfriend.
I know a few, but it is extremely rare. Of course there's really nothing wrong with that if that's how you want to live your life. After all, isn't that the way it works for a huge number of heterosexual married couples? Does anyone truly believe Melania would be with Donald if it wasn't for the money?
However, when it comes to living in Thailand I still go by the Richard Burk Philosophy. Here it is yet again:
"If you want love in Thailand, rent it."